i personally think its pretty crazy that karl marx actually knew what was gonna happen to us back in 1850 like this guy comes out of nowhere at what the fuck o'clock and goes, capitalism is going to creep into every single crevice of your lives there will be nothing left and all creativity and integrity will be taken away like. he just said that and it was correct
Be so rooted in your being that nobody’s absence or presence can disturb your inner peace.
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The following are associated with emotional abuse:
- Withholding love, affection and attention
- Ignoring, or refusing to communicate with, the person
- Threatening the individual
- Abandoning, or threatening abandonment
- Fits of anger and rage
- Engaging in chronic deceit
- Criticizing, belittling, ridiculing or demeaning the individual
- Negatively labelling the person
- Controlling their life and ordering them around
- Minimizing their opinions, and ignoring the person’s wishes, needs and preferences
- Gaslighting, and denying the individual’s reality
- Isolating the person from their family and friends.
Regular reminder that abuse is a pattern of control.
These tactics are abusive when they fit into a pattern of controlling someone.
Outside of that they can be fine.
For example, in resisting an abuser, it can be fine/good/necessary/helpful to:
-not be affectionate
-not communicate
-leave (“abandon”) them
-lie to them
-be angry at them
-criticize them harshly
-negatively label them (eg, as an abuser)
-minimize their wishes/desires (esp when said desires represent a compromise of your autonomy)
-deny their perception/narratives that they push
-and isolate them from you social circles/scenes.
Like, everything on this list other than controlling them / ordering them around.
I *can’t* imagine fighting back against abuse and asserting your autonomy without checking off like half of this list.
And like, that’s not to say the list is necessarily back or wrong. These can totally be tactics of emotional abuse. But it makes me really nervous when I see stuff like this circulating all the time, and almost never see people talk about what these look like as part of an abusive pattern vs in fighting abuse.
Victim blaming is really fucking real and without contextualizing stuff like this it’s really easy to play into it.
